Sharon’s teaching “Seeing the Good” on Day 22 tells us that
This week’s meditations are based on our ability to nurture and grow an orientation of goodwill, inclusiveness, and connection. We will relate to ourselves in a different way, remembering our strengths and capacity to care…
we can consciously shift our attention to include the good within ourselves and so too when we look at others…
Everybody wants the same sense of belonging, feeling at home in this body, this mind, this life,
but ignorance is a very strong force.
If this was a test these past few days, I haven’t done too well. Badly, in fact. Not overtly but too often in my thoughts.
And I’m pretty sure it’s because a (temporary) sense of low self-esteem has not only been expressed in self-judgement but often in how I’ve seen others. ‘Seen’ isn’t the right word, though; but simply a harsh judgement of others actions, appearances, words.
So, yes, ignorance is a strong force. But so are the immediately felt senses of guilt, self-recrimination, and (thankfully) awareness. And, increasingly, I see and understand my ignorance — and hopefully also try to overcome it and think and act differently. Towards myself as much as to others.
I’ve never once heard someone say, “things are really lousy, but I got a chance to really devastate someone today, deliver some choice barbs, some personal attacks, some baseless innuendo and ruin their day, perhaps even their career. Boy, I feel great.” …
When confronted with misplaced rage, the proper response is not to point out the misplaced part. It’s to acknowledge the rage part.
One big reason that vilification occurs is that the angry person feels as though not enough attention or sympathy is being paid.
Seth Godin, in The False Solace of Vilification